A situation sometimes known as "going stealth" is where a Trans person doesn't wish for their past (as the opposite sex) or recent life (as a Trans person) to be known at all. This means they no longer want to be known as anything other than the gender they identify as. Obviously to some this is subject to the amount the person passes (looks/acts like their preferred gender) but it is still entirely up to them whether they would like to go stealth or not.
As a friend or relative of anyone in this situation it is your duty to never reveal anything they don't want to anybody else. If you're introducing them to friends, or at a party, never bring up their past as the opposite sex, and make no mention of them being Trans. You have to respect their wishes as you would anybody else who entrusted you with a secret, as it can be life shattering to some people to be "outed".
Contrary to what movies and tv shows would have you believe, Trans people do not go stealth in order to trick Cis men/women into having sex with them, or any other kind of nefarious or deviant crap. They do it because they simply wish to be seen by everyone else as the gender that they see themselves as. All you have to do is respect that and treat them as you would anyone else.
As I'm not "going stealth" myself I obviously don't know everything about the situation these people find themselves in. If there is anything that anyone would like to add, go right ahead. The more info on the subject the better.
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